The other night, I was thinking about relationship roles. Nothing to do with romantic relationships, but more specifically, the roles we are and take on in friendship and family relationships. Then I asked myself the question, "What does it mean to be in a healthy relationship?" From this question, the title of this post was born.
You see, so often in relationships we try to swoop in all superhero-y and change the people we are in contact with. We don't like the way they talk. We don't like the way they raise their children. We don't like the amount of time they spend on a certain thing. We think if we can just fly in with our capes and save the day, the people we interact with will be better people for it. How is this true when WE ACTUALLY DON'T HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE PEOPLE.
Now don't get me wrong. People change me and mold me every single day, but it is not because they are out to change me. No, the relationships that are the healthiest and most inspirational are the ones that use the motto support as opposed to change. Now support doesn't mean being a doormat. It doesn't mean never speaking into a person's life. It doesn't mean going along with everything the other person does. It simply means acting with and towards the other person in ways which will bless them and encourage them to move forward in life in a growing, healthy manner.
We love our superheros, especially in light of the recent Avengers kick. We love our stories of knights in shining white armours. But at the end of the day, we are meant to be in each other's lives to support not change. At the end of the day, superheroes are fictional.